If you know me or listen to our show you know that I am a Tiger fan to the core. I am. I went to school there, I teach there, and my children go there. I am a season ticket holder, Alumni member (former board member), my kids have all been Pouncer Pals, I went to Football by Fuente and hope for another next year. I love my Tigers. Last night's loss was coming. It was. We all knew one day we were going to have to see the L in the standings.
Last night when we returned home, my daughter went to get the marker to put the W on the schedule that hangs on the fridge. She is 5, she didn't realize when we left it was a loss. She said time to put the W on. I responded, "no we have to put a L on there. We didn't win." With that came the waterworks. She cried and cried. You would have thought she played and lost. For the last 15 games she has been able to put the W on and today I explained loss.
We talked about losing and what that meant. In fact, we cannot win them all. In life there are winners and their are losers. In a sporting competition there has to be someone who will not be victorious. In life, there will be folks who get the scholarship, the job, the home, the guy, the girl, the _______ you fill in the blank, and some who won't. That's how all this works. It just does. It is harsh, but it is reality.
My daughter and I had a long talk about what it means to lose. It doesn't mean the end, it means that this week in practice the Tigers will work a little harder, Coach Fuente will be a little tougher, it means that like the rest of us, they will get up dust themselves off and start over again because that is life. Those of us who love the Tigers will be there to cheer them on no matter what like we always have. True Blue fans don't let the L stop us. We never have and we are thankful for the time we have had in the W column and we are thankful for the L column because that means we still have a team.
We as a team and as a society have to learn to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and start all over again. We will not always win, that's life. But, it how we handle the loss that makes us who we are. No matter what your L is, a football game, a job, a relationship. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and let the L make you stronger. You are not defeated. We, Tiger Nation, are not defeated. We have basked in the sunlight of the W and we need to work to find it again. It is not over, there is always tomorrow or in our case Houston.
I never meant to be a teacher. In fact, when I first discussed teaching with my husband I said it as if it could be a stepping stone while I was waiting for the "Dream Job." I wanted to work for the CIA, FBI, Department of State, or something like that. But, God knew better than I did what would be my dream job.
In 2003, I called a new school in the area LCA to see if they had any available positions. I had just graduated and I couldn't find anything in my field. It just so happened that the history teacher left that day. I was asked to come in for an interview.
It was at that little brand new school in MIllington, Tennessee where I met some of my children. These kids became a part of me. I cannot explain it, but their faces and our time together still makes me smile. Lighthouse was not my easiest job. Starting a new school is never an easy task, but those kids, who are now adults, with kids of their own still get to me. I am friends with many of them on Facebook and when I see their engagement posts, their babies, and career successes I gush with pride, knowing I have a place with them as they do with me. Just as my heart swells with pride when they experience joy, my heart breaks when they experience tragedy.
Yesterday, I got news that one of my students, my children, experienced a loss I cannot fathom. September 23rd Ali and her husband John celebrated the blessing of their third child. Yesterday, John went to be with the Lord. The details are still unknown to me, but what is known is the heartbreak she must be feeling right now. Yet, her one post today was Isaiah 43:2 " When you go through deep waters,I will be with you.When you go through rivers of difficulty,you will not drown.When you walk through the fire of oppression,you will not be burned up;the flames will not consume you."
John and Ali were missionaries to Mexico who were currently living in Texas. I cannot imagine the pain she is experiencing. I ask that you shower her and her family with prayer and if you feel led to do so, please consider giving to a Go Fund me account set up by her family. My heart hurts for her and I would give anything just to give her a hug right now. Please help and most importantly pray. Thank You